She’s the wife of iconic captain of the Bokke, Siya. She’s a Mum of four, devoted wife, an astute businesswoman and opinion leader on social media channels. Here we chat about her source of inspiration, her decision to open her life up to the public a bit more and a message every woman should take to heart.
How did you and Siya meet and start dating?
We met in Stellenbosch at a dinner with mutual friends at Ginos. I wasn’t that impressed with him initially but after meeting that evening we became really good friends. Friendship turned into romance, and it was only after a trial separation in 2013, that I truly realised how much I wanted him in my life.
How do you find balance in being a wife, homemaker and mum of four?
As the saying goes, “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” As women, we are natural nurturers and tend to give, give, give. It’s essential to prioritise “me time”. I have an incredible group of friends, whom I call my “table.” We go for coffee or go for dinner and leave the kids out of it.
What do you think is the key to a happy and healthy relationship?
Taking good care of yourself .You’re likely to give your partner the best of yourself if you’re in a happy, healthy headspace. Also, a good sense of humour is critical and not taking things too seriously.
How did you manage being thrust into the limelight with Siya and the Rugby World Cup success?
I didn’t feel I was thrust. I made a decision to allow my life to be a bit more open to the public. In doing so, I wanted to show other women that they don’t need to be quiet, they have a voice for a reason. I’ve learnt that at the end of the day people are just people. I try not get caught up in all the hype. Working in the community helps you stay grounded – it’s a true reality check.
Describe a typical day?
Inside of this pandemic it’s just making sure we all have a very structured day- Siya is back at training now. Household needs and chores need to be delegated. It’s important to have healthy routines as it’s a dangerous time to lose yourself and structure.
This women’s day, which reflections do you feel every women should
take to heart?
Not to put too much pressure on yourself. To try remember that society puts enough pressure on you already. It’s like we’re expected to be smiling all the time, with a perfect body, perfect kids and an Instagram worthy life. But that’s not real life. We’re all human. Taking care of yourself is taking care of your family.
Who have been the strong influences in your life that have shaped who you are?
A number of different women in different seasons. I couldn’t name them but they know who they are!
Have there been any silver linings or positives that you’ve seen come out of this global pandemic?
Plenty! For us as a family it’s been having Siya home and enjoying good, quality family time. A lot of soup kitchens and organisations that we’ve been working with are almost grateful for the pandemic as it’s shone a light onto the work that they’ve been doing all along.
Do you have any special family rituals and things you love to do together? A family hike or walk in nature whenever we can.
By: Danni Martin